First of all, I want to congratulate the wives who are reading this article! Any wife who is willing to selflessly take a step to satisfying her husband deserves to be congratulated!
In my previous article, I mentioned that if a wife wants deeper intimacy with her husband she needs to become selfless. If a wife is trying to please her husband just to get the end result, she will eventually get tired of keeping up pretenses and abandon her quest. Pleasing her husband should be something she wants to do from her heart, out of love.
So, with that being said, let’s move on!
How can a wife “wow” her husband if she doesn’t know how? The answer is simple. Ask him!
Here are a few sample questions that a wife can ask to help her husband open up about his needs. Please keep in mind that these are just samples and any wife may feel free to use them or use her own.
1.What are you most/least satisfied with in our sexual relationship?
2.Would you like it if I initiate sex sometimes?
3.What would you like me to do more/less often?
4.How often would you like us to have sex?
5.Would you like me to be more spontaneous?
Make sure to ask your question(s) at the right time. Find a time where you and your husband feel emotionally connected. Normally in the afterglow of physical union, husbands and wives feel close to each other. Perhaps this may be the perfect time! Take it slowly. Use your best judgment on which one/ones to ask and when.
If a husband doesn’t really want to open up and talk about his needs, then his wife should be patient. In the meantime, she should attempt to surprise him and be more initiative with sex. If she keeps this up, he should be willing to share his feelings on the matter.
Use your knowledge of what your husband likes/dislikes to surprise him!
1.Pray for the Lord’s guidance on how to please your husband.
2.It is OK to try things outside of your “comfort zone”.
3. Keep him guessing.
4. Say “YES!” to spontaneity.
5. Seeing you fulfilling his needs will make him want to meet yours.