Ever played on a team for a particular sport? What would happen if you went to the opposing team and told them about the bad moves your teammates had? How would your teammates feel about you being on the team when they’ve learned what you’ve done? If you’ve read any of my previous articles, you know that I believe marriage requires the husband and wife … Continue reading Protecting Your Marriage #4
With so many platforms of communication available to us, we need to make sure that it is not taking over our lives. Communicating on these platforms can have some serious effects. Communicating with someone you once had a relationship with has its dangers, so does communicating with others of the opposite gender. Did another man outside of your family “like” the photo you posted of … Continue reading Protecting Your Marriage #3
Having a hard time deciding what to wear because you want someone other than your spouse to notice you? If you’re dressing with this purpose in mind what are your motives for doing so? Are you trying to get attention from the opposite sex? Is your spouse not noticing the way you look or the benefits of your hard work at the gym? Does your … Continue reading Protecting Your Marriage #2
Most people, if you ask them, don’t plan on having an affair. However, there are certain behaviors that lead people towards this downward path. While some behaviors may seem innocent and insignificant, they can often lead to a much bigger issue. The behavior we’ll talk about today is: Confiding in someone of the opposite gender. A great question to think about in regards to this … Continue reading Protecting Your Marriage #1
When thinking of doing good deeds, we naturally think of helping others outside of our family circle. Perhaps there may be a desperate need of your time from your wife, perhaps your husband needs you to listen without distractions, or perhaps your children need you to be more involved with the changes they are going through. “Let each of you look not only to his … Continue reading The Interest of Others
Increasing the amount of intimacy in a marriage can’t happen overnight. In fact, it takes time and effort from both husband and wife and is an ongoing process. If a husband and wife desire more than just a “good marriage” and want to increase their levels intimacy, they need to constantly connect in these 3 different ways. 1. Emotionally: Share experiences, laugh, look into each … Continue reading 3 Ways to Connect Intimately
It is no secret that raising a family is a challenge. It affects every aspect of the parents’ lives including what happens in the bedroom. Husbands and wives discover changes within themselves and changes in their relationship when there is an addition to the family. What are some scriptures or quotes that you’ve found helpful in keeping the “flame” alive in your marriage when your … Continue reading It’s no secret…
When was the last time you laughed with your spouse? When you’re multi-tasking and have to juggle responsibilities, laughing could be the last thing on your mind. Take a couple of seconds to share or remember a funny moment with your spouse. Ready to share a funny moment? Write it below! Continue reading Laugh on Loftforum!
Does hearing someone criticize you put you on the war path? Do you get defensive? When your spouse is criticizing you or holding you in contempt it may seem like they are superior to you and are constantly putting you down. You begin to feel: 1. Unappreciated 2. Disliked 3. Misunderstood 4. Disrespected These negative feelings within a marriage can be destructive to the intimate … Continue reading Dealing With Criticism
After learning about your spouse’s positive and not-so-positive traits, it can be easy to fall into the trap of wanting to change them and begin to negatively criticize them. Let’s take a look at the definition of criticism. Criticism: the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes. (Google) Criticizing your spouse is totally different than voicing a complaint or … Continue reading Constant Criticism
Have you ever found that you and your spouse argue about the same issue/issues over and over again but in different ways? Why do you think this happens and if it has happened to you what helped you to peacefully resolve/stop these arguments? If they haven’t been resolved how do you both diffuse the situation? Leave your response in the comment box below! Continue reading How do you handle it?
Who says a love note needs to be written on paper? Love notes can come in the form of acts of service, a special gift, or even a touch. It doesn’t need to be something big. It can be something as simple as helping your spouse do a chore without being asked. There are: 1. Mirror notes – Write a message for your spouse after … Continue reading Go Paperless
About a week after returning from our honeymoon in Paris, my father unexpectedly passed away. Then within the space of 5 years both of my husbands’ parents passed away as well. While we grieved for our parents, we clung to each other and became emotionally hardened at having experienced so many losses in such a short space of time. From these experiences, we decided that … Continue reading It’s Just Too Short
It’s been a few years of marriage. Responsibilities and expectations start to take over your lives. You and your spouse love each other but don’t get to spend time alone like you used to. Sound familiar? Keeping up with your spouse through changes and character growth can certainly benefit your marriage. Think about how well you know your husband or wife. Do you know their: … Continue reading Keep Up!
Summer is almost over. Don’t let it go by without spending time alone with your spouse. Here are some ideas: Have fun together – Do something that makes you both laugh. Whether it is playing a game, watching a movie, or cooking dinner giving off that positive energy makes your spouse want to be around you. Hobby Time – Find a hobby or interest you … Continue reading 4 Ways To Connect With Your Spouse